The Gift of Tears

"A man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief."
"Until you have wept, you don't know God." Saint Ephrem

When did we first begin to feel ashamed of our tears? Who was it who first insisted that tears are a sign of weakness: that, for men, it is unmanly to cry; that women's tears are self- indulgent; that a child's tears belong to the same category? Who invented this brand of stoicism which forbids the most natural expression of grief; the most natural expression of joy in the face of incredible beauty; the most natural expression of sublime love! Who was it who first encouraged us to return to God, unopened, His gift of tears?
Jesus wept, openly and unashamedly, at the news of the death of his friend, Lazarus; he wept for Lazarus and he wept out of empathy for Lazarus' grief-stricken sisters. He wept, openly and unashamedly, when he anticipated the horrors which were due to befall Jerusalem. And one wonders if Jesus wept during those dark, anguished hours in Gethsemane! Would we blame him if he did? Would we accuse him of weakness! Self-indulgence! Unmanliness!

"I would not exchange the sorrows of my heart
For the joy of the multitude.
And I would not have the tears that sadness makes
To flow from my every part turn into laughter,
I would that my life remain a tear and a smile.

A tear to unite me with those of broken heart,
A smile to be a sign of my joy in existence."
( Kahil Gibran)

Now there in the words of that beautiful poem is a courage and a wisdom worth cultivating!
Tears can purify the heart and unite us with those in anguish. Tears can be the prism through which we express our yearning for the God of compassion and understanding. Tears can be our heartfelt response to the beauty which is beyond words; to loving friendships; to acts of kindness; to our own brokenness and the brokenness of others.

Let us never be coerced by ourselves or by any other person to reject God's kind, kind gift of tears.






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21st May 2015 The Gift of Loss
6th May 2015 Walls
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3rd February 2014 Dancing in the Wind
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