Be your own role model


Where do we find good role models today?  Whose example do we encourage young people to follow?  In ways it is hard to answer these questions.  We live in a world of so much information.  We know so much about people - even famous people.  This can be an advantage but it can also be a disadvantage.  We quickly hear about the good people do but we also quickly hear about the not so good.  So in today's world it can be hard to find consistently good role models. 

A business man who was giving an address at a prize giving a number of years ago gave a fascinating answer to this question about role models.  What he said was

"Be yourself at all times.   Be your own role model.   If you try to be someone else you will only be able to take second place.  When you are yourself, no one can beat you at that!   This is certainly one thing that you will be the best at!"

Be your own role model.  To some this may sound very arrogant.  Imagine declaring I am my own role model.  However if you think about it this is probably the most humble thing that you can do.  It is the thing that requires the greatest confidence and the greatest trust.  When you become your own role model you are not living in comparison with others.  You are not saying that you are better or worse than anybody else.  What you are saying is that you are best when you are true to yourself.  You are best when you are not trying to be somebody else.  That does not mean that other people and their example can't inspire you and encourage you and give you greater determination.  Of course they can.  Some people can bring the best out of other people.  But the best will only come out if the person is true to themselves.

Often we don't have confidence and trust in ourselves.  Often we doubt ourselves and undermine ourselves and wish that we were like other people.  That is where today's wonderful feast comes in - the feast of Pentecost.  Today God gives us the confidence that we need to be true to ourselves.  Today God sends us out filled with his Spirit.  He sends us out to be nothing only ourselves.  Peter went into that room where the Spirit descended on him as Peter.  He went out of the room as Peter.  He was the same person.  However he went out of the room fully aware of God's confidence in him - God's Spirit in him and he trusted that confidence.  Every other one of the apostles was the same.  They were true to themselves.  They believed in themselves.  They believed in their value and in the trust that God had in them and the presence of God in them.  That is what gave them their power and enabled them to talk to everybody about Jesus in a way that the person could understand. 

In a society and a Church today when many lack confidence the feast of Pentecost enables us to find the source of true confidence.  That confidence doesn't come from any ability that we have.  It comes from who we are.  Our abilities can increase and decrease.  They can change but who we are never changes.  We are Spirit filled people.  God lives in each one of us.  God loves each one of us.  God recognises how beautiful each one of us is.   He believes in us.  He trusts us.  He has confidence in us.  This is all that we celebrate today. 

So on this feast of Pentecost have the courage to trust God's confidence in you and so be true to yourself.  Trust that God created the best when he created you.  Trust that you will only be your best when you are true to the person God created.  Then you will be your own role model and you will inspire others to be their own role model too.  So where do we find good role models today?  In ourselves if we have the confidence to let them out.




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21st June 2019 The Glorious Abundance of the Almighty
25th March 2019 Shrinking
15th January 2019 Balance is All
19th November 2018 The human hunger for beauty
9th October 2018 Shifting Perspectives
19th June 2018 Thank God I was wrong
16th May 2018 "Today is a new dawn, new, clean and fresh - and so are you, my dear! Don't worry. All is well."
26th March 2018 The Long Winter
7th March 2018 The Gift of Tears
19th January 2018 An Understanding of Kindness
14th December 2017 Do You See This Woman?
17th October 2017 We Are All One with You
7th September 2017 Gaps
20th June 2017 "Love is not loved."
25th April 2017 I Hope You Dance
21st March 2017 From Darkness to Dawn
27th October 2016 The Bright Field
27th June 2016 The Enemy Within
31st May 2016 The Little Way to The Almighty
25th January 2016 Love Immeasurable
11th November 2015 Letting Go
21st May 2015 The Gift of Loss
6th May 2015 Walls
24th November 2014 Leaning into Winter
24th October 2014 Crossing the Road
25th June 2014 Fetters of the Soul
30th April 2014 The Power of Gratitude
10th March 2014 The Darkling Thrush
11th February 2014 Spring
10th February 2014 Masks
3rd February 2014 Dancing in the Wind
21st January 2014 Chains of nostalgia
13th January 2014 Forgiving wrongs darker than death or night
7th January 2014 Singing out Loud
17th December 2013 CHRISTMAS FOUND
9th December 2013 Withering into the Truth
2nd December 2013 The Celtic Prayer Garden
25th November 2013 Missing Dates
18th November 2013 NEARER GOD’S HEART
12th November 2013 Night
27th April 2010 Healing God
25th November 2009 Our Poverty
1st September 2009 Which of the two tigers will win the fight?
1st June 2009 Be your own role model
25th May 2009 The Feast of the Ascension of the Lord
18th May 2009 Power of the real presence
7th May 2009 "Lessons I did not learn in School" - by Bill Gates
30th March 2009 The Long Walk to Freedom
23rd March 2009 Become a Friend
16th March 2009 Ireland in Identity Crisis?
9th March 2009 Love to Pray
2nd March 2009 Life - Giving Words
16th February 2009 Exclusion Policy
9th February 2009 Somewhere the Child
2nd February 2009 The Conversion of St Paul
12th January 2009 Thomas Merton, "Thoughts in Solitude"
22nd December 2008 A Christmas Parable by Louis Cassels
15th December 2008 Work – from In the heart of the Temple by Sr Joan Chittister
8th December 2008 Am I at home when the doorbell rings?
1st December 2008 Street Corner Christ
17th November 2008 How Did I Get This Busy?
10th November 2008 A Homily for The Feast of the Dedication of the Lateran Basilica – 9th November 2008
3rd November 2008 John O’Donohue taken from “Benedictus - A Book of Blessings”
27th October 2008 Charles Peguy 1873-1914, French poet and politician
20th October 2008 The following is an extract from a talk given by Bishop George Lungu of Chipata in Zambia in Africa, to the synod of Bishops being held in Rome this month.
13th October 2008 Excerpt from ‘A Door of Hope’ by Jean Vanier
6th October 2008 A Reflection on Matthew's Gospel 21:28-32
29th September 2008 The Daily Decalogue of Pope John XXIII